World-class help for the most important relationship in your life.
Hands-on, neuroscience-grounded work for couples — in Austin, in DC, in your city, or at a destination retreat in Mexico or Colombia.
- Stop having the same fight on repeat
- Feel like a team again — instead of opponents
- Grounded in neuroscience — not talking in circles
- Shared couple agreements — clear guardrails for your relationship
I work with a small number of couples at a time.
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One approach. Four containers.
Every format is the same approach at a different intensity: experiential, hands-on, and built around how your nervous system actually works. You choose the container.
Destination Retreats
Mexico · Colombia
Get out of your routine and into a completely different environment — nature, movement, sauna, incredible food, and a small tribe of couples doing the same work. Then we stack new relationship skills on top of a nervous system that's finally ready to learn.
The 12-Week Private Program
For couples who want depth over time: a structured arc toward becoming a functioning team, with private sessions, live in-the-moment feedback, and access and support between sessions.
Private Intensives
Austin · DC ·
Fly‑to‑You
One couple, one or two days of private work — the equivalent of months of weekly sessions. Come to me in Austin or DC, or I fly to you, anywhere in the world.
Standalone Sessions ·
Workshops · Live Courses
Standalone couples therapy sessions, affordable online workshops, and live in-person courses. The most accessible way to experience this work.
You hire a trainer for your body. A professional for your taxes. Who's in your corner for your relationship?
Your relationship shapes your health, your happiness, your kids, and your work more than almost anything else in your life. And yet most of us were never taught how to do this. We were handed stories about romance — and almost no guidance on what to actually do when conflict, distance, or resentment shows up.
Here's the reframe: getting professional help for your relationship doesn't mean something is wrong with you. It means you're taking the most important area of your life as seriously as you take your health and your money. Love isn't a feeling you fall into and then hope for the best. Love is a verb — learned, practiced, and repaired.
It's not a communication problem.
It's a nervous system built for survival, not relational harmony.
Show-me, not tell-me.
Information is free and infinite. You could Google "how to communicate better" tonight — and tomorrow, in the heat of the moment, none of it will be there when you need it. There's a reason: the moment your brain's threat-detection system fires, the prefrontal cortex you rely on for clear thinking goes largely offline. Everyone knows they should be kind. Everyone is regularly unkind anyway. Knowing is not doing.
That's why we don't sit and talk about what you should do when you get home. We do it — in the session, with live feedback, repeated until it starts becoming a habit. You practice the actual moves of a thriving relationship while I'm in the room with you, so when it counts, your body already knows what to do.
Scrutinize the training, not the title.
- PACT — Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (Stan Tatkin): Certified Level 1 + 2, ongoing weekly consultation
- Relational Life Therapy — Terry Real
- Imago Relationship Therapy — Harville Hendrix
- Transformative Couples Therapy — David Mars, Ph.D.
- Somatic Experiencing–informed — Peter Levine
Your relationship doesn't live in a vacuum.
How you eat, how you move, how you sleep, and who you're surrounded by directly shape your nervous system — and your nervous system shapes how you show up with your partner. That's why my intensives and retreats are holistic by design, not as a perk.
Diet
Fuel for a regulated body
Exercise
Movement burns off stress chemistry
Sleep
A rested brain picks fewer fights
Tribe
It truly takes a village
What couples walk away with
A roadmap for de-escalating and repairing conflict — instead of "moving on and forgetting."
A new relationship with conflict itself. Healthy couples do fight — the skill is repair.
Their voice — the ability to clearly express needs instead of expecting mind-reading.
The core themes underneath the surface fights — so they stop playing whack-a-mole with "the dishes."
Explicit agreements and a shared vision — a relationship by design, not by default.
More connection and intimacy — built through practice, eye to eye, not theory.
How it works
Book a free 15-minute call
We talk about what's going on and whether we're a fit. No pressure, no script.
We choose your container
Intensive, retreat, or program — whichever format matches your situation, timeline, and how fast you want to see change.
We do the work — together
Practiced, not just understood. You leave with new patterns your body has already rehearsed.
Twenty years of a dramatically better relationship. What's that worth?
People routinely spend more on a car they'll replace in five years than on the relationship at the center of their entire life. If you're ready to invest in the thing that actually determines how the next twenty years feel — let's talk.
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